Insights into Nonverbal and Verbal Communication

This week I watched an episode of “The New Normal”, a sitcom on NBC. First I watched the show without sound, then I watched it with sound. I had never seen the show before, and did not have any idea of what it was about. I gained some insights into the importance of both nonverbal and verbal communication.

As I watched the show without sound, I was able to guess the relationships the characters had with one another quite accurately by the end of the 30 minutes. I was also able to figure out the basic emotions they were feeling towards each other during certain events and discussions, even though I had no specific idea about the events or topics of discussion. I relied heavily on facial expressions, and was able to see relationship bonds between characters.

When I watched the show with volume I learned that I had accurately figured out the relationships between most characters, but had no idea what the causes and effects of situations had been without verbal communication. My biggest “aha” moment was the realization that though nonverbal communication helps to express verbal messages, it is often not a stand-alone form of communication. Another thing I realized was that nonverbal communication may be more easily interpreted when you are familiar with the people you are communicating with. I imagine if I had watched an episode of “Friends” or “Seinfeld” I would have been better able to imagine the different situations the characters were in because I already know their relationships with one another, their livelihoods, and what they spend their days and evenings doing. In a real-life example, my twin sister and I are often able to have two conversations at the same time, each talking about our own subject and still respond to each other. We are also able to have entire conversations with half a sentence (or less) and the interpretation of facial expressions. This is largely due to how well we know each other, and that we share many schemas. It drives our significant others nuts sometimes, and we have had to make conscious efforts not to do this too much around them because they feel left out (and rightly so- it is a very personal form of communication!)