Who I am as a Communicator

This week I evaluated myself as a communicator, and had my fiancé, James, and my co-worker, Teresa, evaluate me as well. The results of some of the scores between us were surprising, and led me to reflect on what areas of communication need improvement for me to be a competent communicator in both my professional and my personal life.

In an assessment of my listening skills, the three of us rated me as “people-oriented”, meaning I am concerned about the emotions of others when I communicate. Though this listening style can help to establish relationships and trust between others, and me I wonder if it makes me a weaker advocate for children in issues and debates at work.

In an assessment of my communication anxiety, my fiancé and I rated myself as “moderate” indicating that my anxiety is situational, while m co-worker rated me as “low”, indicating that I am confident and comfortable in communicating in small and large groups. At first I was surprised, but upon reflection, I recognize that at work part of my job is to be a leader. I have built a program from the ground up, had to advocate for children to get the support staff and curriculum they need, must lead IEP meetings, and have serious discussions with parents. I also supervise two paraeducators and collaborate on a weekly basis with several others, as well as 15 general education teachers. I have a lot of confidence in my ability as a teacher. When it comes to other situations in the social realm, I do not have that confidence, and usually let James (my fiancé) take the “lead” in conversations with groups of people. While I am comfortable with my low level of anxiety at work, I think I would benefit from becoming more socially active and taking more time to enjoy my friends and hobbies (a challenge with school and work!) It is important to maintain a healthy balance in life.